Wow, what an assignment this is. Gotta love being thrown in the ring with gloves off! This assignment must have 20 people agreeing to monitor their thoughts, actions and reactions for 7 days. They must agree to try to remain positive even in the darkest of circumstances.
WELL, this assignment could get me a big fat zero real quick. First of all, I had no idea how negative people have become, nor how unwilling people are to change. Everyone has an excuse for not trying....kids, spouse, job, "why change...it's gotten me this far," kind of attitude. It's amazing to me that people in general have advanced any at all. I wonder if people know that your thoughts today make up who you are tomorrow. I guess I have been blessed enough to have plenty of mentor ship, training, and and overall good outlook on life for a long time. That's not to say I don't have days, or even weeks, when I am down and just feeling that the roof is falling in on me...but overall I am in the minority.....I guess. I had a great teacher in high school that taught be a lot about positive thinking, and believing in myself. I had a great friend/mentor that reminded me of if years ago, then after my run in with cancer I found God again and realized that everything in this life is his work. We may ultimately choose our destiny and the path to get there but we are never alone. Then I started working with an amazing company that insisted that its leaders continually go through training. Since 2005, I have had a few mentors, and some that were brought back in the light from high school. Since then, I have stayed on a pretty consistent, positive path. I spent about 6 months not listening to mentors and listening instead to friends and family. Now, I love my friends and family, but I also wonder how I have gotten as far as I have. Everyone talks about how life is so hard, and finances don't meet, or this person screwed me, etc, etc. Everything that has happened in my life is a product of how I have lived my life. No excuses for me. I may make mistakes, I may do things that are frowned upon by the hypocrites of this world, and I may just totally tick people off with things I say...but I am always me, even if that "me" changes daily! I guess I refuse to just be content with whatever happens, happens...I want to make things happen....MY WAY! By the grace of God, a husband who has tolerated me for almost 12 years, 2 kids that tolerate me daily, and family & friends...I am the best me possible.
As I start, and possibly, end this assignment I know that I am moving in the right direction. I know I can not change the world, only me. I also know that success and prosperity are a mind set, not an achievement to be made. I also know that to be successful, you must align yourself with those of like mind and destination.
I am anxious to see my own thoughts as the week progresses, and to also see how I personally feel in a week. I know that my heart is light, and my mind is at peace.
Too blessed to be stressed!
Salli
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Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Reinventing who we are....can it be done?
As a wife, and Mom, and business owner....you learn to be one person with MANY different personalities. So, when the opportunity to take a psych class through one of my businesses presented itself, I had to jump on the opportunity. However, the very first assignment is proving to be difficult already. The assignment: find 20 people willing to become cansciencious of the negativism in their lives and try to get through 7 days without it and readjusting their negativism to positive energy. HOLY MOSES!!!!! Although I try to do this, I have found myself becoming negative on occassion and then it takes awhile to readjust my personal habits.
So, my first thought, go to facebook and ask some of my friends to try it. Oh my, 4 responses and not a single person that thinks they can do it. Wow. At what point did our society find it acceptable to become so negative? No wonder our children are out of control, people can't ever recover from job loss, or advance beyond their current financial situations.
So, for the next 7 days, I plan to document my personal week of Non-Negative thinking. I know that I will not be perfect, as no one is, but maybe over the next week, I can find enough meta-data to convince myself that not everyone is totally negative.
Now, to let the journey begin.
So, my first thought, go to facebook and ask some of my friends to try it. Oh my, 4 responses and not a single person that thinks they can do it. Wow. At what point did our society find it acceptable to become so negative? No wonder our children are out of control, people can't ever recover from job loss, or advance beyond their current financial situations.
So, for the next 7 days, I plan to document my personal week of Non-Negative thinking. I know that I will not be perfect, as no one is, but maybe over the next week, I can find enough meta-data to convince myself that not everyone is totally negative.
Now, to let the journey begin.
Saturday, October 9, 2010
Life, Love, and Sanity!
As many of those who read this blog are parents, I hope you can associate with this release.
As a Mom, I can't imagine life without my children, nor would I want to! However, I have struggled lately with this uneasy feeling of overwhelming emotions. I know that many older generations tell me; " I had my kids everyday and they were never left with baby sitters." I have to wonder if that was by choice or because of some social "keeping up with the Jones'" Although I love my children, I am realizing that to be the best Mom possible, I NEED A BREAK! My Full-Time job is a Mom. But that also means 24/7 parenting. Isn't it a law that every 8 hour shift gets 2-15 minute breaks, and a 30 minute lunch hour? HA! Although this is my dry attempt at humor, it's true. Being a Mom is full-time. So, that prior statement would mean 3 hours a day should be my break! I know this isn't realistic, but an hour a day for me or even 30 minutes to get a shower doesn't seem to be much to ask. I have visited with other Moms and it seems to be overwhelmingly unanimous that ALL Mom's need a break. While I have tried to be "super Mom," and kepp my little munchkins with me all the time, I find my sanity starting to waiver a bit! : ) So, I have decided to make it a priority to get 1 hour a day all to myself. No Children yelling "Mom!" every 30 seconds, no husband saying, "honey, where is 'fill in the blank?'" and no telephone to interrupt my down time. Will this current strong will, stay...I sure hope so. Just the thought of an hour a day to do whatever I want, is exhilarating! I am planning a monthly over night trip for my children-to one of their grandparents, so that my husband and I can have some much needed couple time, and who knows....I may even try to schedule a girls weekend out with some girlfriends. Even if we don't do anything but enjoy a movie, some "girl talk," and a few drinks. I have put myself on a back burner since getting married in 1999. I do not want to continue this. I have had too many emotional melt downs lately to ignore the obvious reasons. Being a full-time Mom, Home educator, owner of 2 home businesses, Wife, homemaker, and any other number of titles is wonderful....but it is not allowing me to grow as "Salli!"
So, this new course is being set into motion. It could be choppy waters for awhile while everyone adjusts, but it's a much need change of course to keep this Mom, whole, happy, and sane! : )
Have a great weekend!
XOXO
Salli
As a Mom, I can't imagine life without my children, nor would I want to! However, I have struggled lately with this uneasy feeling of overwhelming emotions. I know that many older generations tell me; " I had my kids everyday and they were never left with baby sitters." I have to wonder if that was by choice or because of some social "keeping up with the Jones'" Although I love my children, I am realizing that to be the best Mom possible, I NEED A BREAK! My Full-Time job is a Mom. But that also means 24/7 parenting. Isn't it a law that every 8 hour shift gets 2-15 minute breaks, and a 30 minute lunch hour? HA! Although this is my dry attempt at humor, it's true. Being a Mom is full-time. So, that prior statement would mean 3 hours a day should be my break! I know this isn't realistic, but an hour a day for me or even 30 minutes to get a shower doesn't seem to be much to ask. I have visited with other Moms and it seems to be overwhelmingly unanimous that ALL Mom's need a break. While I have tried to be "super Mom," and kepp my little munchkins with me all the time, I find my sanity starting to waiver a bit! : ) So, I have decided to make it a priority to get 1 hour a day all to myself. No Children yelling "Mom!" every 30 seconds, no husband saying, "honey, where is 'fill in the blank?'" and no telephone to interrupt my down time. Will this current strong will, stay...I sure hope so. Just the thought of an hour a day to do whatever I want, is exhilarating! I am planning a monthly over night trip for my children-to one of their grandparents, so that my husband and I can have some much needed couple time, and who knows....I may even try to schedule a girls weekend out with some girlfriends. Even if we don't do anything but enjoy a movie, some "girl talk," and a few drinks. I have put myself on a back burner since getting married in 1999. I do not want to continue this. I have had too many emotional melt downs lately to ignore the obvious reasons. Being a full-time Mom, Home educator, owner of 2 home businesses, Wife, homemaker, and any other number of titles is wonderful....but it is not allowing me to grow as "Salli!"
So, this new course is being set into motion. It could be choppy waters for awhile while everyone adjusts, but it's a much need change of course to keep this Mom, whole, happy, and sane! : )
Have a great weekend!
XOXO
Salli
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