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Final thoughts for ending 2024, the year of survival.
It's been kind of refreshing to know I am not the only one that has battled everything this year. I'm going to start with so many of the women, my age, that have been working through this phase of our lives. It's tough ladies!! We are the last of our generation of this generation of independence. We basically raised ourselves, we made our way in nearly everything we have done, and now life is kicking our butts! This time of "pre-menopause" that has us all dealing with hot flashes, emotions raging, technology taking over our worlds, children growing up or careers that have taken over, the battles we faced with miscarriages, extended family, and feeling like we are on the American Eagle tracks without the cars to ride in....so many slippery slopes, and hanging on for dear life! For many, it's constantly hearing others say, it's because of this, we are being irrational or too emotional. Girls, we have just finally reached the point of being tired of everyone else's crap! We are up, we are down but so many of us have found ourselves dealing with too much negativity and it does wear off on us...believe it or not. We have spent so many years building our lives, raising kids or building careers, making homes(a few more than others), we got lost in the mix. This new era, is now for us. I think we have to drop the negative perspective (as much as possible through hot flashes and others stupidity), and be happy that we are at this point, when others did not make it here. We may be a little crazy, but who cares!!! The people meant to in our lives will love us regardless! Those that leave, well...consider it a gift. The trash has taken itself out. One less chore for us! Now, let's celebrate together! Let's support each other on the good AND bad days, even if we are not close to each other geographically! We are not made in the same way other generations are.
2024 has been a tough year, seemingly for many. Y'all...we have made it this far, count that as a success!! We have just a few more days to round out this year and start a new chapter. I personally don't make resolutions, because I don't keep them...I have an issue with being too hard on myself when I don't keep them. So, we need to prepare to start the new year with a new perspective. Resolutions last, as long as it takes to make them. I set goals to achieve. My new year, also begins on my birthday each year. It's a new chapter in my life...to make it better than the previous year. Whether it's the actual new year or your new year...goals have a plan, they have a priority and a date. You have to decide what is important for you. Saying you will eat healthier, get into better shape or health...is great, but it's too generic. How are you going to achieve the results, what is the overall goal and how are you going to take the steps to achieve, AND how will you get back on track if you miss a goal. We all have missed goals, it's more important to not give up but instead step up and get back on track! Don't allow those missed goals to feed excuses or negativity.
Many of my goals every year, include continuing to learn something new, and accepting who I am. I am not blind to all my flaws, but I know I am a good person, overall. Being a good person, despite popular "memes" is not going to draw more good to you. Typically, it ends up causing you grief. Don't let that deter you though. Integrity is being a good person, even if you know others are not. When it's our time to go to the pearly gates, we will only be answering for what we have done...not what others have done. So, what are we doing to live a life of integrity? This may be an out-dated point of view, but I don't believe this thought process should go out of style.
I am personally wanting to get myself back to a place of intention. This entire year has been one of, "ok, this is what we are doing now?" That does not work for me. I need a plan, I need some sort of organization - even if it's organized chaos, I need direction, and I need time to work through when plans blow up in my face. I am not a person that just "goes with the flow!" At least not at this point in my life. Someday, maybe I will get back to that...but it aint right now.
I have spent the year, battling so much alone. Not even sharing most of it with those living in my house, let alone anyone else. So many like to remind you that things can be worse, but they don't grasp that what you are dealing with...is still a struggle to you and that thought ends up isolating people. Many times, talking through issues, for as long as it takes to get through them, is what is needed. Throwing someone under a bus; you probably should make sure you will never need them again. Some bridges can never be rebuilt.
I am truly ready to kick 2024 to the curb. I am putting all my Christmas stuff back into their boxes with some sage and it's getting put up! Then, I am cleaning my house - top to bottom, with sage before 2025 even gets started. I will be opening windows to allow fresh new vibes in to start the new year. What is no longer working for me, will be removed. It's time for a true fresh start.
Here's to a happy, healthy and prosperous new year! No "new year, new me" rhetoric! It's time to start fresh! God Bless!
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