Coffee Chat and more

 

I'm in a strange place right now. It seems there is always something going on, whether it be good or bad, and I'm really working to keep the negative at bay. I've spent so much time having to live by schedules, seasons, preparations, juggle those unknown obstacles, and try to keep my "feral" tendencies at bay too. I've shared just enough of my everyday life to explain a few circumstances, but nearly all my life is kept away from the world wide web. I began writing to share my own experiences of learning to live and survive on a farm, learning to manage food growth and preservation, our home schooling adventures, and even my growth in cooking & baking. Then, it expanded into issues that effected our farm, our lives, and share our perspectives. Once again, it expanded to give other hope to other women, who were tackling the challenges of perimenopause/menopause. I've shared my passion for helping veterans, and our annual disabled veteran hunt. 

 

Each year, usually around my birthday, I work on goals for the coming year. Maybe my intuitive senses are beginning earlier this year...who knows. What I do know, is that I am really feeling insightful but also a bit detached. I enjoyed Thanksgiving. I'm looked forward to our open house, Christmas gatherings, my birthday and New Year's eve; I am also feeling a bit detached there too. It's strange to have a vision of how you want things to be/go but you know it won't go/be that way. These gatherings mean the world to me! They are so much work, and a ton of clean up, but it means so much to me to keep many traditions alive, and pass them down to the next generations.  It's difficult when you don't see the younger people showing the interest though. I am going to put this out, because I give credit where it's due. My daughter and I met a wonderful man at the annual gun show we go to; one of our fundraising events for the veteran hunt. He is a "Santa Helper" that has been at a local farm that hosts events throughout the year. Because of that man, he gave my daughter her Christmas spirit back in October. So much so, that she told me then, she wanted to go see him(as Santa) at the farm, 2 months later. So, it got put on the calendar in pen. It just so happened, to fall the day after our annual Christmas Open House. We were all tired, but we went. The smile on her face, his personality and seeing my little girl(a teenager, but still my baby)still believe in the magic of Christmas...WAS PRICELESS!! It truly brought tears to my eyes. So, for that, Thank You David Boom!! You gave me another year of magic too!

Before I move into other areas, I have a tough confession to put in words. I've voiced how hard 2024 has been for me a few times. It has really come to light since October. If not for my daughter's excitement over Christmas this year, I probably would not have done anything. I had planned to only put up the main tree, not have the open house, and to not have any gatherings. I am just really not feeling Christmas this year. I am trying for her, but it's just not in my heart this year. I want time with my husband and kids, but I want to be selfish and keep all the magic I can muster, strictly for them. I have struggled throughout the year with watching others be hurt, learning to readjust as a mom with an adult child, juggling fluid schedules that do not work for me...but I have no choice to go with, learning how you can become unimportant when you are no longer needed, and trying to manage a whole lot of emotions that I don't want to deal with but am not given a choice. I am notoriously trying to run interference in situations to try to give an opposing point of view, for perspective. I try to be the one that says, yes...the decision was bad, but try to see it from the other persons eyes. It's been exhausting this year! To be honest, it has caused me to shut down a lot, withdraw from everything outside my home and immediate family and get through one day at a time. I am thoroughly overwhelmed this year and I am just ready to start seeing some sort of positive movement forward. 

Our Christmas Open House this year was really small from the last few years. We had an ice storm the night before, and had rain the entire day of, this year. Everything was pretty slick and nasty. We still managed to have about 25 people that braved the weather, and we got to visit with several neighbors, and some family. We have a lot of goodies left over, which has meant those in our house have been gracing on them all weekend! I believe I will be freezing whatever I can, and we do have some neighbors we will be taking some to, also. It was smaller, but it was a little easier to visit...even though I still didn't get to visit a lot with anyone. I had planned to cancel it this year, and my daughter wanted no part of that...I am happy I didn't. 

Now, we are less than 2 weeks from Christmas and while I am excited for my kids, I am really just struggling and I don't know how to change that. I have a lot to work on, some changes I need to make in several areas, and I just want to get out from under this black cloud that seems to be hovering right now. I'll figure it out eventually, but for now, it's a bit overwhelming. I don't want to bring anyone to this level, so I keep to myself...but man, do I miss having a friend to vent to, over a cup of coffee right now! Maybe talking this crap through would get it to make sense!

Coffee Chat - Welcome December

 

Welcome December!!

The final 31 days of this year, and 25 days until Christmas! Even watching the calendar, it's a strange sensation to KNOW we are officially in the last month. I have been given the best possible gift already this year, my kids are all super excited for Christmas! Even my 15 year old is almost the most excited of all. She is honestly the reason for me to push myself to get into the spirit this year. 

I have explained the spirit of Christmas to my kids for years. Meaning, it's not about the gifts(those are a bonus) but instead about the kindness, the time spent with loved ones, and having goodwill even when it's a challenge. We have never made the gifting about technology or big gifts, it's always been about a few useful gifts and a few fun gifts. It's been typically, someone different each year, that wakes up first...and then wakes up the rest of the house. Sometimes, that is at 3 am...other times, closer to 7. Santa sometimes, hasn't been gone more than an hour...so, that's fun. Especially, when he takes a 4 hour power nap...instead of just closing her eyes for a few minutes. It was always fun, when we had younger kids, that didn't sleep! 

2024 has been an especially tough year for me. I have worked hard to start recovering my health, weight, and energy after a couple years of illnesses. I have had to accept that I put some pretty harsh and unrealistic expectations on myself...and I do not handle failure well. I've put faith in people and things that have let down those expectations too. It's been a major challenge to accept so many things that I can not change. As someone that tries to understand people, situations and choices...learning that my instinct is either way off, or things are more deceptive than imaginable...that has left me speechless. I refuse to dwell any longer on the crap from this year. I am one person, doing what I can, to make MY world a better place. That means loving those that are dear to me, letting go, changing the importance of some situations, and making peace a priority by any means necessary. 

While I am feeling a little apprehensive, I am excited for all that December brings me and my family. I am looking forward to our gatherings, Christmas, my 50th birthday and New Year's Eve. There is a lot to do and finish right now, but I am not going to stress about any of it. I am focusing on what I can do, what I can change, and the direction I want to go. I'm starting the month on a hopeful platform.

Coffee Chat - Turkey Chat...

 

It's a late Thanksgiving this year, and I'm really thankful for that! As I work through my never-ending lists, a later holiday has actually allowed me to catch up some. After spending so much time in the past few years, being sick or injured...rebuilding my health has been a difficult, and constant hurdle. I have started feeling more like myself, but the damage done, sometimes feels insurmountable. I know many won't understand but, I have always struggled to gain weight. When I stress, get sick, or get too overwhelmed...I lose weight, and quickly. I don't have much to lose. Gaining a pound or two back, is a major undertaking, let alone the nearly 25 I lost. With that also is the challenge of not being able to eat much at one time. If you think about when you get sick, and don't eat much. Your stomach actually does shrink to fit the intake of food. After a 2 year health battle, my husband said I wasn't eating enough to feed a bird, but I would eat as much as I could. So, it's been a big struggle, and added stresses only make matters worse.  Add in the joy of menopause, and the randomness of symptoms there...and the economic troubles, loss, and family...it's been tough. I struggled to enjoy so much of the outlets I once enjoyed, found myself feeling like I didn't really fit into anything, and there was more stress. While I began feeling a little lighter a couple months ago, September was a real turning point...so far.

I have always valued my independent steak and not needing recognition to do good things. I don't need them to succeed, but sometimes negativity begins to overrule even the most positive reinforcements. It's kind of funny to me to read the memes on social media about true friends, family and even spousal behaviors. If I followed those things, I'd be in serious trouble. Let's see if I can name a few: "if your spouse has a lock on their phone, they are hiding something from you." "If friends are true, they can see when there is a problem, even if you don't tell them." "Family - blood is thicker than water." "People will make time if it's important to them, no one is too busy." Geez, I could fill pages with this nonsense. It's really easy to understand why so many are depressed, jealous, and have gotten so set in a world of unrealistic. The more you are focused on negatives, the more you will get...that is just the way it is. I've started allowing myself to have a moment to whine about an issue, but then I turn it to this: "whining has gotten me no-where but more upset. How can fix whatever it is that is challenging me?" One area I really struggled with, after reaching out to others for help, lead me to a friend that helped me jump a hurdle I didn't know how to fix. Another area, I am working hard on, is the negativity. There is so much of it anymore, and it comes in so many forms. So much of it, is unnecessary, but we open our lives to world through social media and even our circles. I quit sharing the majority of my life on social media and even in my blogs. So, if people feel the need to gossip about me, that's all it is because no one outside my immediate family and inner circle knows what goes on here. That inner circle keeps getting smaller with poor behaviors. I'm not better than anyone else, and I don't try to be...but I work hard to be a better me, every single day. I'm finding that some positive recognition is quite nice. Having a few trusted people that I can turn to as friends that will listen to my nonsense, and then give me a fresh perspective to rebuild the steam I need to keep going, is invaluable! 

So, just getting some of these thoughts out today is helpful. I have 6 days to get ready for my absolute favorite meal of the year! I have a lot of people coming to celebrate Thanksgiving, and I am excited. I have quite a list of chores to check off, but there are great rewards this time of year. My beautiful Christmas decorations are going up, nearly all of the items needed for Thanksgiving have been gotten, and even getting the winter prep list knocked out has been happening. 

I pray each of you have a bountiful, healthy and happy Thanksgiving!

Nov. 15 coffee updates

 

 

 

I'm going to take a minute to pat myself on the back, I don't do this normally... I have been speaking in front of 25-50 people for several years. It's not a big deal. When I have a grasp on the topic at hand, it's quite easy for me. However, speaking to a group well over 100 people, with a few new talking points...OMG! Talk about nerve wracking! Not to mention the venue, was full of Veterans, the people I admire the most. I never want to appear foolish to them. I gave my speech it went a little off topic briefly, but I still fit it in a 10 minute window. It was a little intimidating seeing the program of speakers...Mike Mortensen - a combat veteran, Sgt. Patrick Perkins - another combat hero and President of Heroes Hunting Foundation, Scott Wright - Marine veteran, and Deb Moeller - Iowa City VA...and Me. I was one of very few non-veteran speakers. It was especially humbling. Even more so, it was the first time I had been able to attend the event, so I did not know how it worked. I know I will be much more prepared next time. I was able to make a few networking connections, that could help us to continue to improve our veteran hunt.  That is always my first priority, improving what we do, to give more back to our veterans. I have to give Van Buren County Veterans Affairs, VSO's Barbie & Marcella, a ton of credit for organizing not only such a big event but keeping it running smoothly. They did an incredible job! I can organize and plan with the best of them, but organized chaos can still be chaotic. 

I am venturing into our holiday season gatherings and decor beginning today. I'm still on a bit of high after last night. There is just a small amount of decorating(by my standards)left to do inside, and a little bit outside, and that will be finished. I have been taking pictures as I go, but not sharing too much on social media. I just haven't taken the time. I will later. I am pushing myself pretty hard this year, to find some spirit. My little girl is more excited for Christmas this year, than she has been for several years. It's a little easier to find that magical spirit when the people I spend all my time with, are bursting at the seems with it. Not to mention, a couple of exciting prospects have been added to my life, giving me more hope for better times ahead. I've said before, the past several years have been tough. 

So, with a blanket of fog to start the day...I will be working around the house. I have a little paperwork to deal with, and will be adding to my growing grocery list. It's a little ominous not being able to see beyond our vehicles, but it's kind of pretty too. I've seen the first forecast calling for some snow showers next week too. Guess that means it's time to wrap up the outdoor preps...the winter weather is going to make its first appearance. Remember to take time to count your blessings, and hug your loved ones a little tighter. Even though I've questioned this a lot, I still believe that family is our number 1 priority. Have blessed day and weekend. 

Coffee Chat

 

It's finally starting to feel, "fall-ish." The leaves are falling and the winds seem to howl a little more as we draw nearer to the Winter Solstice. It's kind of unbelievable we are at this point in the year. After several years of insults adding to injury, it's quite nice to feel a ray of hope again. Even if it's still a little wobbly. 

Each morning, as I sit with my coffee, say my prayers for the day and go over paperwork...I reflect. Some days, it is inspiring while others is a bit dreary. We are all guilty of making excuses for things - both good and bad, that happen in our lives. I have always told my kids, the universe tends to help us see the forest through the trees. It shows us the realities, and even when we can not understand the events, it's there to guide us to betterment. Whether that be bettering ourselves or our situations. I don't believe in luck, luck seems to show up with some good, old fashioned hard work...and a whole lot of prayer. 

This week, even with a lovely sinus headache, I've really felt some much needed hope. It's like a veil is being lifted after years of dark. I know, that is a little dramatic. Still. That is my feeling. In September, even with just our family to run point, we had one of the biggest veterans hunt to date. It sure seemed as every veteran enjoyed themselves, which is the entire point. We had great people that stepped up and made/bought food, great veterans - as always!, and some incredible help in several areas. Now, we just need to improve the field volunteer lists! I have notebooks full of notes that have helped me keep organized, and improve what I can. We have already set the dates, reserved the lodge and most of the rentals/services, and have a big jump on the fundraising. We are in a good place. I am looking at a little better structure for the fundraising/sponsorship side. October was fun. We attended the 7th annual gun show in Bonaparte, Iowa. We have actually been part of it, from the beginning. It's incredible to see the transformations it has made, and the leadership of that show are great people. It was also the month, I did the first ever media interview for our veteran hunt. That was a bit nerve wracking! I'm still trying to figure out how to make that visible for everyone to read. I wanted to stress the importance of outdoor events for veterans, not just our event, but all the events available to veterans through so many different groups. All the groups I've been in contact with, offer benefits to veterans, and should not be used as a competition. If it is, it's defeating the purpose of actually helping veterans. Working broadly together, will get the most impact possible. 

Now, we are in the second week of November. It's hard to believe! I normally have all my Christmas stuff up and out...but I'm lagging really bad this year. I have some up, but not much. I'm working on it. As I said earlier, I have felt really out-of-sorts, for several years now and I'm starting to see a little light at the end of a very dark tunnel. One thing I will tell you, don't wait for someone to notice you not being yourself. They won't show up. It doesn't matter if you are ill, depressed or feel like you've lost all hope - you have to find some solid ground to build yourself back up. Most are too busy to even notice. You have to be your own hero, your own rock. It's not easy and you will have a lot of set backs...but keep fighting! Each new day, is a new chance to make improvements, and if need be...start over again. Sadly, we've been conditioned to believe in victim-hood, and make excuses to hold us back. It's always a good practice to reject that, and start taking stock in our own self. 

It's a great day to start fresh. Take inventory of what is serving you well, and what is not. It's said that insanity is doing things and thinking the same ways, while expecting different results. Let's break the insanity! We have a gift given to us, each day we open our eyes. Use it wisely. This is my reminder, as much as it is for everyone else. It's easy to get lost in the minutia, and noise. It's in these last few weeks of the year, that I am truly being reminded, of God's grace. Learn from your experiences, and grow from them. I am trying to do just that!

Some thoughts - trigger warn

 

Some thoughts on current issues - probably need a trigger warning here.

I thought I'd write about some generic thoughts and just share them in my social media, but the AI prevents or flags a lot again. Apparently, it's a wild card if you are allowed to share anything positive about Trump or negative about Harris. Some manage to get a lot posted, me? I get flagged with threats of one more time and it's a 30-90 day Facebook jail. So, here we are. Grab some coffee, or your favorite beverage and let's just chat.

Having strong opinions is pretty common anymore. The biggest difference I can see, is that some strong opinions have a hollow base to them. This can be true of any number of subjects. If you base an opinion on what you see on the news, you've got a hollow base. It's been proven fact, for a long time, that you only get snippets of truth mixed with a whole lot of narrative direction from them. If you are familiar with the Smith-Mundt Act, you know that between 2008 and 2016, that was revised to allow propaganda to be used against the American people. This completely reversed the original intent, which was to require facts and truth only, to the American people. This essentially turned our media from fact focused, to shear entertainment and propaganda. The biggest problem is that American's have become to lazy to actually know what is going on with the legislation in our government. This is also true of how our branches of government are expected to work, how our military is expected to work, and how our Constitution and Bill of Rights work. There are so many that can not even tell you the simplest explanation of our Bill of Rights. It's truly remarkable how complacent we have become. We expect the 4 year elections to just "fix" everything, but we don't realize that the biggest changes we can make is in our Congressional races, and in our state and local elections. We don't realize how all the divisions that have force fed to us, have done nothing more than allow those, who have nothing but greed and power as their priority, to continue to dictate what is acceptable for us. People that spend 20+ years in federal government, have lost touch with the very people they are supposed to represent. That is just fact. Sadly, it is the same with local and state elected positions. We do not force these people that want our vote, to actually work for it. We listen to what they say, or how they bash their opponent, or their slander ads; and think that is what they will actually do. How has that worked out for us? There is not a single person running for an elected position, that will be 100% perfect. That's a stupid wish for anyone. In my mind, it's like the lists I was taught to make as a younger person. The pros/cons lists. When you draft out that list for whomever is in each position, what they have already done in their lives and in positions of leadership, and IF they will be the person you believe will help you/your family/your community/your state/your country. It requires effort from ALL of us to be educated, and not from the sham of edited and diced information on the noise box. When you base decisions on what the news stations are telling you, you are cutting the corner of actual education and responsibility. As American citizens, it is our responsibility to vet those we send to elected positions. It's not about personality, it's not about the slander either. It's about track record. Have these people done anything productive, have they started wars, has our economy grown, has our independence grown, how are our average families fairing? 

On the state level, I believe it should be required that anyone wanting a vote for a position that will guide the entire state, should be required to go to every single county in that state, at least once every year. Listen to the people in those communities, what their challenges are, what their victories are, areas that need improvement, etc. So many states, focus solely on the few big cities in each state, and the rest of the state goes to hell in a hand basket. On the local level, this is a big ole can of worms for me! From experience, I live in an area of the county that is forgotten about...until it's tax time. As with most of the secondary roads in our county, our road sucks. They put on this tar & chip stuff to make it appear "better" but the sides of the road are crumbling, living in rural areas - the roads are not wide enough for the farming equipment used today and another vehicle. This fall, the state decided to replace all the tubes in our road, and that has been a disaster! They put asphalt over them, only to have the large amount of traffic cause all of it to create big dips across the entire road, at every single tube. It's pathetic to pay so much, so the only roads to be maintained is the 2 main highways. Unfortunately, the state decides to determine how much traffic the roads get by placing these strips that count the vehicles. Well, they do this on a weekend, and when the traffic is not of normal flow. This road is a major through way for tons of hog trucks, tons of farm equipment, grain trucks, not to mention all the vehicle traffic, on a normal day. It's really a busy road that connects Missouri and Iowa. However, getting a rep out here to see any of this, has never happened. 

There are a lot of topics in this election, that I am concerned about. I know we are at the end game with the election being tomorrow. I thought I would just share a few thoughts, and maybe a different perspective. The biggest decision maker issues for me: the economy, the border, the accountability, the world stage, American independence, and American citizens. In this federal election, we have track records for both people trying to get elected. So, we have the responsibility of comparing what they have done. For 3 1/2 years we were told the border was secure and closed, except the visual evidence stated otherwise. In the current administration, many of our American citizens have been forgotten. The people of Lahania, Ohio, North Carolina, all the cities/towns that had factories burn, businesses burn, bridges knocked out, and on the world stage - 13 American soldiers lost in Afghanistan, and countless American's left behind. The current administration supported and even bailed out, the people that burned our cities, our federal buildings, our citizen owned businesses and homes. They allowed all these non-American people to invade our "sanctuary cities/states" and those people have raped, murdered, and physically taken over hotels, condos, and homes. The American tax payer has been on the hook to pay for those here illegally, in food, housing, healthcare, education; all while so many of our own people and VETERANS, go with out any or all of that. Our own citizens have been left trying to juggle the increased cost of food, fuel, healthcare and prescriptions; by the very people that are sent to D.C. to work for the American people. So much of this election cycle, both federally and in my state, is based on this abortion issue. My opinion on this one, is not even close to so many I've heard. Let's dive into that, just for a different perspective.

The abortion issue, should not even be an issue, period! I do not support it in the sense of a form of birth control. The biggest thing to me, IT SHOULD NOT BE A PUBLIC NOR GOVERNMENTAL ISSUE! PERIOD! That decision is one that should be considered a medical issue, meaning: it is a decision between doctor and patient ONLY. No one publicly, not a single politician, and not a single insurance company. The problem as I see it, is this:  there are some people pushing for a ban on them, and some pushing to remove bans. Why is this in the public, why was this ever in the Supreme Court, why was this allowed in any of our law making jurisdictions? You see, covid and watching people willing sharing their medical issues publicly opened my eyes to this thought. When and why is any person's health conditions, anyone else's business? It's NOT!! It's the same as the gay rights, and all of that. What you do medically or behind closed doors - IS NO ONE ELSE'S BUSINESS BUT YOUR OWN. The problem is, too many people want to feel important or part of the "in" crowd, like they are in school. So many think labeling everyone or everything, is such a priority now. The only thing labeling does, in my eyes, is proves you do not have good enough character - as your own person, to stand on. It means your priority is to be liked and accepted; instead of being a good person, a productive person or a person of value. So much has been focused on this pathetic "victim" mentality, instead of taking personal responsibility. We have allowed the government to dictate our lives, from what we can/can not purchase to what we can or can not do. That was never what the American Republic was supposed to be about. 

I see so much posted about religion. I will be the first to say, I pray, a lot! However, I am NOT religious. I do not believe in the church of today. I believe in God, but I believe the entire system has been misrepresented by a lot, over centuries. I know this riles people, so I tend to keep it to myself. However, there are some that use religion as a shield from what is happening in our country and honestly, around the world. America was founded on Christian principals, but individual religions were kept out of the Constitution for a reason. Many early settlers came here to escape religious persecution. When religious leaders disagreed with their churches, they ventured off to begin their own. I personally know of a religion that claims they don't get involved in politics, they disagree with war, and they won't prosecute for stealing from them; because God will handle it. Well, in my eyes, this is simple stupid thinking. If you are not willing to get involved in the very process that allows you to have your "communities" and allows you to have a legal means at tax evasion, you probably should be willing to defend that. Yet, this group has massive tax breaks, has their own school systems, their own financial system, and they spit on our soldiers and veterans by not supporting or joining them. How many of these "special" religions are 501 non-profits? How many of these special groups of people, get all kinds of benefits from the government, yet do nothing to help their fellow man? How many are willing to talk crap about how they treated, yet do nothing to help themselves? Yes, I believe God delivers. But he also gave us free will, and expects warriors to defend themselves. 

This area is one of what I consider a visible one. I do not understand how some can not see the damage that has been done to our independence. Independence is linked together both in the literal and the the financial sense. American independence was fought for, and thousands of brave men and women died for this!! In the financial sense, American's are in the pot. We depend on other countries to produce the majority of what of use: products, fuel, and even food. This was not always the case. At one point in American history, we produced the majority of stuff, right here in the good ole U.S. of A. We had pride in our products and services. We had a healthy economy because our products were bought and sold here and abroad. Our American dollar was the premier currency to have, and other countries revered us because of it. Now, the American dollar is worth pennies, and we are on the verge of the collapse of that prestige. Our "experts and life-long politicians" haven't got a clue about economic responsibility. If they did, we wouldn't be $36 TRILLION in debt. These experts and politicians have failed miserably for the American people. Yet, we keep putting the same ones back into office. Stupid!! Most of our manufacturing has been moved out of our country. The businesses that are here, are constantly being berated with a call for higher taxes on them. I may not of a doctorate, but even I know that shit rolls down hill. You increase the taxes on those creating the jobs, and that is a numbskull idea! Those tax increases raise the cost to the American people. Those tax increases cause the industries to move manufacturing to other countries because the taxes are cheaper/labor is cheaper/ and it's worth paying the importing, because it is still cheaper than the taxes. This is basic economics people. Think back to the last 4 years. Every single time the fuel prices spiked, the cost of the products we purchase, has increased. This is the most basic example I can give. When we have to depend on products, fuel, or anything from another country; we have lost independence and our elected officials have failed to do their job. Yet, so many are blind to the facts. 

As we head into another election cycle, with a barrage of issues that should be troubling ALL American's - those I shared, and the shear number of missing migrant children as just a starting point, I hope more American's will start getting to the bottom of issues. More government is never a good option! They are the problem, and we need to accept that. We need citizen politicians again, the ones that were intended by our founding, that served their terms and went back to their communities and jobs. We need to lose the victim mentality, and start being accountable for our own lives again. We need to get medical and sexuality back where it belongs and out of the a public spectacle. We used to put these types of things in a circus freak show...now, it's made the entire country a circus. I never cared what color, what religion, or what sex or sexuality you were...until it was shoved down my thought, and made into the freak show it is. Now, for the most part, I still don't care - AS LONG AS YOU ARE A PERSON OF GOOD CHARACTER!!! If you can't be a person of good character, then you will need one of those "special" titles and a mental health exam.

Coffee Chat

 

A coffee chat to start the day. My least favorite couple of weeks each year, is now upon us. Which is strange since my youngest child loves Halloween. Locally, the city offers a trunk or treat, usually the day before Halloween so kids can go to other towns. This to me is ridiculous, but whatever. It gets me past it one day sooner. I know a lot of people that love Halloween, I just don't like to be scared, and that is what that holiday is all about. So, I pull on my mom pants, and we go to hand out candy/decorate the car(a little)/she dresses up...and the best part for me - I get to make a trip to the local coffee shop. Then, the next day...I start decorating for my favorite season.

I have been following the hurricane clean up/relief efforts of Helene. Ya'll it's terrifying what they have experienced, but seeing them pull together and entire country donating to help our own citizens has been incredible! It's terribly sad how many lives were lost, homes lost, and entire towns wiped out. The resilience, determination, and grit of the folks in Appalachia is unmatched! It has brought home several important thoughts. Through all the destruction, they have pulled together, helping each other. Those left completely isolated - most were well prepared in the sense of having backup supplies for an emergency situation. Another thought, the American people have incredibly generous hearts. To see semi loads of food, water, pet supplies, medicine, blankets, and a couple of notable companies that stepped up...The Buddy Heater company and the Rocket Stove company; have made generous donations. The people of those areas are building back roads and bridges to get to those still isolated. Most of them, are regular citizens utilizing what they can to help their neighbors. The Cajun Navy, and so many with pack mules and horses have takes supplies across treacherous terrain to get help to those unreachable due to roads/bridges being wiped out. It will take a long time for the people of Appalachia to rebuilt, but they have proven to the entire nation, what is possible when we help each other! 

This brings me back to preparing. I know I get a lot of grief about this. The one thing I can attest to, on a personal level, is the importance of preparedness. Where I live, is kind of a crap shoot, on what the winter weather will be. It's been brutally cold, super snowy, warm, wet, and even dangerously dry. Having spent the better part of 26 years living in a rural setting, preparation is not an option. If we get snow, it could be days before we see a plow. If there's ice...no one is going anywhere until it thaws. Just last winter, we had a major snow storm, and lost power for 27 hours. We would not have been that long without power, except the state snow plows had not even tried to get down our roads, until the electric company started insisting they needed to get power restored; that meant they had to get to our location. We were prepared for a lot of possibilities, but that long without heat in January, was a hole in our preparations. We have a generator, we had means to cook and the pans to do so, but we didn't have everything in place to actually be able to utilize it. We had snow drifts over 6 foot tall, had we had everything in place...it would have been buried under snow anyway. We did find holes though. No matter how prepared, you will always find a hole, but the importance of doing what you can, can not be stressed enough. We spend half a year getting our preparations in place each year. It's a cycle that makes sense. We prepare April, May, June, July, August, September and sometime October - for November, December, January, February and March.I try to make sure to have enough supplies for several months, although that has become more difficult in this economy. Things like: food, water, pet supplies, live stock feed, hay, straw, mineral, medical supplies for humans and animals, wood for the furnace and if necessary a fire, propane for grills/griddle, candles, batteries, flashlights, lots of blankets, warm clothes, hats/gloves/insulated clothing for everyone in the house, thick socks, food that can be eaten without being cooked, OTC meds(allergy, Tylonal, Aspirin), extra fuel/diesel for the tractor, and keeping our vehicles/tractor full of fuel. Don't forget treatments for anything with a diesel engine...they gum up in the cold! I learned to can the vegetables from the garden, fruits, jellies, soups and meats too. This helps a lot if you do not have power. Anything in jars, can be eaten right from the jar. As I said, we keep cast iron for cooking outdoors and some foil pans too. Cast iron can be used on a grill or over an open fire. Plus, the taste of foods out of cast, is amazing. Having printed information is great in a situation without power. We all love the online recipes and sites for getting them, but if there is no power...that won't work very good. Having holistic knowledge is immeasurable. Keeping books that can tell you how to mix up a remedy for coughs, colds, or any number of illness is life saving. If you want to find your holes in preparation...take at least 24 hours dark. No electric, no internet, nothing. 

As I said earlier, we are less than 2 weeks from my favorite time of the year; Thanksgiving, Christmas, my birthday and New Years. To me, they are one giant holiday, that stretches to my birthday and on to the New Year. It takes me weeks to get all my decor out and put up. My kids tell me, Christmas explodes on our house every year. I believe in being grateful everyday, but Thanksgiving to me, is about the kick off to family/holiday get togethers. I love our gatherings, even if they were difficult for a few years. It has changed for me this year, since I only have one child left at home. For several years, we had a house full! I love that, and hope they are all able to still spend time here. A lot changes when your "Mom role" changes. Like I said, I still have one at home, but 2 are now adults with their own homes, and my other bonus kids have all gotten engaged this year...so, I'm sure they will be super busy. I am excited that my youngest is as excited, as I am, for Christmas this year. It is definitely making it easier, for me, to get excited too. I can't wait to start putting up lights, decorations and the trees. My house always seems to pretty, to me, with all Christmas stuff up. I decided to go ahead with some gatherings this year, that I had actually decided not to do previously. Thanksgiving is the first. I love our traditional meals! I never bought into the story told of how Thanksgiving started. It just never felt right. So, for us, it's always been about being grateful for all we have, sharing the day with our loved ones, and kicking off Christmas season. After that, will be our annual open house. This was something we started when we first moved to our farm. We welcomed our neighbors, friends and family to our home, prepared soups/lots of cookies/fudge/candies/breads to share with everyone. There are no gifts, other than good old fashioned visiting. Years ago, we had a lot of little people, most of those little people are now nearly adults. Then comes our Christmas Eve. When the kids were little, we started a tradition of opening a gift on Christmas eve. It was always a gift that contained new PJ's, some microwave popcorn, a box of candies, and sometimes a mug and hot chocolate. We'd open that gift, go put on our new duds, pop some popcorn or make hot cocoa, and settle in to watch Christmas movies until bed. Christmas day, has always been an early start for us. If it's not one of the kids...it was me, to get the kids up by 4 am to see what Santa brought. We'd get our coffee, and then the kids would take turns opening a gift and "oohing and ahing" each others gifts until all were open. There were years that gifts were all very practical because money was tight, and that practical gifting has stayed in our traditions too. We do not buy technology or electronic, they always get a few gifts of need(socks, underwear, etc.) and a couple of gifts that are just fun. I always tried to get a least one gift each, that was educational be it a book, or learning project. Moving on, a few days later is my birthday. So many people who have December birthday's really hate it. I don't. I love my birthday, even so close to Christmas. I love each new one, knowing I get another year to do better. Although my family doesn't ever do much for my birthday, I still love it. This year I hit the 50 mark! I am super excited. I keep thinking, maybe this year I won't have to bake a cake for myself, and can get some friends here to celebrate with me. Anyway, then we are on to New Year's Eve...that is always fun. We make up lots of snack foods, and have a night of board games, card games, New Year's Rockin' Eve on the noise box...until midnight. Even if I am the only one still awake, I toast a new year, and a new journey. So, there you have it. Why I love the last 2 months of the year.

Since we are still in full harvest mode, all the windows have been locked up, and the air was turned back on. My allergies are not handling all the crop dust/dust this year. Everything is so dry and dirty. They have begun harvesting here around the house, and the dust clouds get a bit wild. I am ready to be past harvest this year. Richard has been working his butt off, lots of long hours and working entire weekends. He deserves a break when harvest is done! He stepped up and took on running a service truck, and I really hope those in charge appreciate it. I can tell you, it was not anywhere near his list of "want-to-do things." 

I believe I will end this blog here for today. I have so much I want to get accomplished, I just have to be off my backside to do it! HA! So, I hope you have an incredible week!

October 15 updates

 

Wow, did it get cool outside!! Just 4 days ago, it was 90, with overnights in the 60's. Today, is a whole other story - 43 at 10 am, with a high only getting to 55 for the day and into the 20's tonight. I'm actually cold for the first time in about 3 years. It's pretty wild. I am actually happy that it has cooled off. It feels like Fall now. Which leads to my favorite holidays. There is still a lot to do outside to prepare our farm for Winter, but a few days of cold; it's the universal push to get the lead out of our butts and get stuff done. 

 

So, after 3 months of lots of running and events, I began on my household lists yesterday. There have been a lot of things I let go the past few of years. Unfortunately, when I get overwhelmed...I tend to let a lot of the things that matter to me, just drift by. I focus on the "have-to items," and the smaller details get brushed to the side. It's been a whole lot of rushing from one thing to the next, just trying to get by, and everything became a chore. I mean everything. I took a short journey on the pity train, and turned off emotions that made me, well...me! It's a strange realization to see it, in hindsight. I'm attempting to push myself forward with those details, that matter to me, and stop making excises. I am exhausted and I let myself go pretty far down...but I am working to fix that too.  I've gotten myself into a pretty deep rut, so I have a lot more work to do. 

Those lists, are my saving grace. I think I have become notorious in all my lists. The to-do, to make, to get finished, to get accomplished, to work on, and so on. Sometimes, it's the simple details that make a lot of difference for me. Yesterday, while I was cleaning, it was knowing I was eliminating the darn cob webs. Those crazy things pop up overnight! It was watering plants, polishing my table, washing bedding, getting dishes done and counters cleaned. It was the simple act of lighting a candle again. It's the actual sight of seeing items on those lists being crossed off. It's having a cup of hot tea and hearing nothing but silence. It was my husband and daughter picking the apples and watermelon before the frost and watching them cut up the watermelon to freeze and eat - together. It was having a decent supper again, as a small family, at our dining room table. I think I had forgotten about many of the simple tasks, compounded, helped me to see progress. 

Last week, my daughter and I made a trip to our local Dollar General. It's not something we do often, but my husband is working a lot of hours...and I don't want to add more to his growing lists. Anyway, we were walking through the store and the Christmas stuff was there in the middle. For several years, she has been not real excited for Christmas overall...at least until Christmas Day. This year, she wanted to look at everything. I try not to get overly excited for much, because I would celebrate everything if it wasn't such a chore for everyone else in my family. Anyway, it truly made me happy to see her excited. She actually picked out a little mailbox tin and some hot cocoa mugs for us, that were Christmas themed. It made my day! Then, we had our annual gun show that we set up at to sell raffle tickets for our veteran hunt. This year, there was a booth across from us, that had none other than a local Santa Claus! One of the absolute best Santa helpers I have ever known. She was over the moon excited, and has made plans for us to visit a local business in December, where he will the Santa helper. She is so excited this year! She has even been talking about decorations we need to add, and where we need to put things. This is an excitement I haven't seen from her since before her Grandma passed away. 

So, this has brought me back to my lists. I have been working on remodeling projects for several years now. Her room is one of them. I just can't seem to get them all completed. One of the biggest projects I want to get finished is her room, before we start decorating for Christmas. She wants to decorate her room, and I am going to do everything I can to make sure she can...with it finished! I have walls and windows to get washed, shelving to build for the extra room turned pantry, and a whole lot of clutter to either find a home or be disposed of. I want to be able to stop chasing my tail, and finally be able to sit back and enjoy the simple things again...without seeing a bunch of chaos. I can make that happen. So, in the words of a great friend and relative(actually family) - "pick a spot, and start there." I'm a little stubborn sometimes, sorry!

So, I know it's not life changing for anyone else, but I plan to share my triumphs...and maybe a few set backs...but I am on a mission. I love to celebrate, I love my children, and the next 2 months are my favorite time of year. I am going to actually enjoy them this year...

Coffee Chat and always more

 

It's October and we are still in the 80's! That seems unbelievable to me. This has been a pretty dry year for precipitation, overall. I would bet that close to half of harvest is already done, with many of the farmers talking about issues with their crops. Between the moisture content, twisted bean pods, some low test areas, and none of this talks about how dry, dirty and fire prone this year's harvest has become. I can not account for personal experience in crops, but this year has been quite an enigma in many areas! I can't help but pray for our nation and her people. It's been a rough one.

For all the research I've done, I would have never guessed how insane the world would become. Common sense, wisdom and logic seem to be pretty rare. The more I have been interactive with people, the less I understand how some can still bury their heads to the state of our nation. I get that it is difficult to grasp things when you are not personally affected, but we are ALL affected by so much...and many are ignoring it, and carrying on as if everything is normal. The prices of everything have been stupidly high for 4 years, and those trying to make us believe the prices have come down...do not realize people have actual receipts to show what prices were just 5 years ago. I've shared one price different on my social media, that has made me sick! I purchase many items in bulk. My baking flour is one of them. My actual receipt from September 2019, the 50 lbs. bag of flour was $18.50. I just had to buy another one last week. The same 50 lbs. brand of flour is now $47.99. A loaf of Sara Lee bread, that was $1.99 in 2019, is now $3.59. A dozen eggs, that I actually bought in 2019, was $0.78 for the dozen, the price at Aldi on 10/5 was #3.25. None of this includes the prices for lumber, clothing, shoes, utilities, insurance, or even taxes. I am NOT better off now than I was in 2019. I have lost all hope for the current administration, and had zero hope to start with, from the installed democratic candidate. Which, by the way, stomped all over the entire democracy theory they spout, when they installed a candidate that NO ONE voted for! The choice in November, for me, is a very one. 

Now, before moving on, I am very unhappy with my state's politics too. I live in a "border" county. Many of us that live outside the main cities of Missouri, never have any candidates find out counties. I believe if you want to represent the people, you better know ALL the people. 2024 is a big election year for Missouri. We have several positions in the air, from Governor, to reps at the state and federal level. I believe that if you want to be elected, you should be required to visit every county's, county seat, and meet the people of the county. There is more to our state than the I-70 corridor, Springfield and the bootheel. The 3-4 times a year of getting a telephone call, at the time of a tele-town hall meeting, is pathetic. These people should be required to travel our roads, know our towns and villages, and actually work for ALL the people of Missouri. Maybe I need to speak to whomever becomes governor of my great state. I get tired of hearing about "Northeast Missouri," and they act like that ends at Hannibal or Kirksville, when there are several counties North of there that are completely forgotten. Our county is another one that needs to be addressed. We are expected to select people for positions within our county, yet NEVER see a single person out in the county finding out what the actual people want/need. It's time these people, from the bottom to the top, actually EARN our votes. 

Moving on. 

Yesterday, I was thrilled to be interviewed by Emily, at our local newspaper. To be honest...I was super nervous and a bit overwhelmed that she contacted me. As many know, my family began hosting a disable veteran deer hunt in 2019. The first couple of years, the only sponsor was the Wake Foundation, and we had some great guys from True Impact Outdoors that volunteered to help out. In 2021, I took over the hunt organization completely, we were sponsored by True Impact Outdoors, and I did most of fundraising, organizing and planning. We just finished the 6th annual hunt, and once again, we had both True Impact Outdoors and Wake Foundation, helping us to meet our goals. While having their support is a great thing, there is a lot of work that goes into an event like this. I am already getting everything moving for next year. One question I was asked, "is there anyone you would like to thank?" I was honest when I told her, there were so many, I could not single out just one. So, I thought I would share the list here, before I move on. To start, I need to thank the person and entity that gave me the start. Robert Wake, with the Wake Foundation. He and his foundation, gave me an outlet for my own love for helping the veterans. I spent 5 years helping and learning so many roles and working outside my comfort zone. True Impact Outdoors, another great organization. I met that amazing crew through the Wake Foundation, and their goals of helping veterans, just clicked for me. Matt, Nicole, and every single TIO crew member...work hard to help veterans too. Every land owner that has donated their land for the veterans to use, they do not know how much I appreciate each of them, and hope they are blessed ten-fold!! Every single business, individual and even our volunteers...each of you help us make a 4 day weekend possible for the veterans. Without the continued efforts, donations, volunteers, and encouragement; it would be so much harder to pull it all together. My biggest THANK YOU, is to our veterans themselves!! I don't know all veterans, but every single veteran I have had the privilege to meet, is beyond exceptional!! Our veterans are the true heroes!! From the bottom of our hearts, from my family to each of you, "Thank You for serving our country so selflessly." 

As my coffee chats go, here's some more. 

Our little farm is still in winter prep mode. We are seriously running behind, so it's kinda good that the weather has stayed good. Just when we knock out a few projects and are feeling pretty accomplished, BAM! Here's several more projects that need to be done. It's been a massive transition going from a household full of people, to just having 3 of us, for the most part. This mom is really struggling with that part. Having to relearn how my husband and I did things without all the kids in tow, and realizing we are more busy now than ever.  I've found that as we work hard to get everything accomplished, we have pretty well withdrawn from everything and everyone else. While I am a person that requires recovery time after interacting with a lot of people, I do enjoy being around people...mostly. My husband works with people everyday, so he tends to like to be a homebody when he's not at work. It's kind of a mixed up match. He is a lot less empathetic than I am, and getting more cantankerous as he gets older too. I don't blame him, he puts up with a lot, until he's had enough...then he's done, all together. Some days, I wish I could be that way...but I'm not. I tend to forgive too much, try to find reasons for things people do, and try to see the other side of every story. We are definitely 2 different types of people. We try to balance it out, it just doesn't always go smoothly. I usually withdraw from stuff...until I can find some level ground. Anyway, our farm is in prep mode, our sheep have entered the breeding time, we've lost a lot of our hens to predators so getting more is a high priority...just difficult to find any now. It's time to get logs ordered for our furnace, for the winter. Trying to empty the garden, since it will not be used again. We got a decent used grain cart to hold the bulk feed this year, since so much has changed with the family dynamics and the surrounding farms. That knocked a lot of wind from our sails, but I believe everything happens for a reason...even if none of it makes sense at the moment. Even with some big disagreements, I am keeping my promise to two very special people(to me), for now. 

As I head into a busy weekend again, I have a spark of hope. I know my hard work has paid off, and I have been blessed to meet some of the most amazing and interesting people. My small family is pretty incredible, if I do say so myself. We have our moments, like everyone else, but when push comes to shove, we pull together. I am truly blessed beyond words! 

2024 Veteran Hunt

2024 Disabled Veteran Deer Hunt

That's a wrap! What an incredible event this was. Each year, I wonder how we can possible make the next event, as unforgettable, and each year...is a whole new experience! 2024 was no exception. I want to break down this event, talk about our veterans, share stories that made this event memorable, and the amazing people that help make this possible. 

The 2024 Veteran Hunt was held September 26-29, 2024. The efforts to make 2024 possible, began in October 2023. It takes an entire year to get everything in place, visit with people/businesses to help offset the costs to my family, and to help our communities to be part of the outreach to take care of those who fight for our rights. My family believes that keeping this event personable is the key to it having a positive effect on and for our veterans. Our entire family works at different aspects of this event. My husband, Richard and my son Joey and my father-in-law Randy, are the ones that handle the field stuff. They scout, set blinds, and during the event...they are taking veterans to their hunting blinds. This year, my daughter-in-law Laura, was our photographer at the farm. My daughter Chloe and I, are the organizers/fundraisers and are out in the communities interacting to bring awareness of the benefits of nature on mental health rehabilitation. Each year, we set up a 20x30 canopy, in recent years we have purchased sides to allow a more controlled area for meals and visiting. We rent tables and chairs, this year, both were donated for use at no cost. We string lights to make visibility easier at night, and have some decorations. During the event, my husband and I do most of the cooking, treating each veteran and guest to home cooked meals. We provide 3 meals each day, with access to snacks in between. 

This year, we had some incredible volunteers that helped in many areas, and I want to personally thank them for making my job a little easier!! Janet Meek, made all the desserts for the weekend, made each veteran a loaf of homemade bread to take home, helped with fundraising, and helped at the farm. Slate Sweat & Jerry Bickford, helped selling raffle tickets, helped with some of our raffle prices and helped at the farm. Mike's Collision & Repair(Mike & Barbie) provided pizza for one night(made by Circle B), all the chips for the weekend, part of the soda, the breads, and Barbie was at the farm to provide help too. Marcus & Aaron, my bonus kids, were here to help out, remembered ice every time we forgot, and helped with clean up. The local land owners that have donated private land for our veterans to use, they are incredible people! David & Lee, Andy, Nick & Nancy, Junior & Linda; Thank You All!!! 

Ok, I need to include many Thank You's for the businesses and individuals that help offset the costs. Without their help, we could continue to make this event possible. Since we are just a family, and just have a family farm; we do not do the 501 program of non-profit. This does make it difficult for some bigger businesses to donate. However, we have a group that has helped us ease that obstacle, and has partnered with us for a couple years. This group is True Impact Outdoors. They also work hard to provide veteran events that allow them to get back to nature, help veterans find their balance and their voices again. You just don't realize the benefit of veteran events in the outdoors, and the camaraderie with other veterans. Any donations that must be made through a non-profit group, can make a donation to True Impact Outdoors, with the designation to be used for the Bowen Family Farm veteran deer hunt; and they in turn make that donation available to us. When time/people allow, they have also sent volunteers to help in the field, where needed. We have several local individuals that will make donations, but expressly do not want recognition, so Thank you...without naming names! We have a few businesses that have repeatedly supported this event; Exchange Bank of N.E. MO., Libertyville Savings Bank, State Central Bank, Kahoka Meat Processing, Van Buren County Veterans Affairs, Bonaparte Community Improvement Association, Shorty's Porties, Mary Dickinson and Kody's Creation. A few new supporters this year: Wake Foundation, Ott's Auto Supply, Mo-Fab & Steel LLC, Riverview Financial Services, IMI Equipment, Mike's Collision, Hy-Vee, Caleb Groenenboom, Dusty & Terry Farren, Jim & Heather Sheets and Anita Wall. 

We work hard to keep purchases local. We believe in supporting our communities. So, much of our foods are purchased through Kahoka Meat Processing, Dutchman's General Store, and Hy-Vee. Our veteran hunting tags are purchased - for our Iowa hunters, at Troublesome Creek Outfitters, and in Missouri - at Duers Oil Company. All our bottled water is donated by Rathbun Rural Water. Our commemorative t-shirts for 2024, were made by Mainstreet Graphics. 

The 2024 Veteran Hunt was unlike any we have had to date. Let me explain. A local veteran and his wife, Jim & Heather, had become very active in our hunt this year. Jim was a Vietnam Veteran. Chloe & I were blessed to meet them at a monthly Veterans First Coffee in Keosauqua, Iowa. They made a donation, and then Heather offered to make a couple of side dishes for the weekend. They delivered them the Wednesday afternoon before the hunt, that night Jim passed away suddenly. The Saturday morning of the hunt, Heather called me. I cried as she was telling me and my heart truly ached for her.  Jim believed in the benefit of these kinds of events so much, she had decided to make memorials to our veteran hunt. Once again, I cried. If you are ever so blessed to meet some of the most incredible people, our veterans are those people! I received a message the Thursday that the hunt began, that one of our veterans was at the hospital with kidney stones, and would not be able to make it. The Friday of the hunt, brought another emergency. Our oldest and honorary veteran, Raymond, had a spell with what was believed to be a stroke. He was rushed from the blind to the hospital. Raymond did not have a stroke, so we are grateful. Ray and Connie have been supporters of this hunt from the very beginning, 6 years ago. The Saturday of the hunt brought one more kink. Joni, our first female veteran, was in the blind and ready to knock down a buck...only to have her bow string break. It snapped her in the lip and ear, resulting in a cut on her ear and a fat lip. All of this, partnered in with unbelievably warm temps(80's) and strong winds from the hurricane remnants; resulted in one doe shot by Ben but unable to locate, the buck getting away from Joni, but lots of deer and turkey seen by all. None of the veterans seemed disappointed, and have all requested to come back. 

<Our oldest and youngest veterans>

As I stated earlier, prep work for this event takes an entire year. I am already working on the preliminary itinerary for next year, finishing this year's raffle(all funds will be put towards next year's hunt), planning at least one new fundraiser, looking at blinds/equipment to determine what needs replaced, and so forth. Each year, the guys set the blinds. However, because the land is donated, we are not allowed access until about a month before hand. This means all the scouting and setting of blinds is done a couple of weeks prior to the hunt. We use strictly hunting blinds, this allows our veterans easier access, since not all are able to climb. This also means we can assign blinds, without restriction hesitation. We do our best to make sure the veterans have access to deer, but it just doesn't always work out like we hope. We listen to each veteran that attends, when they share any improvements or ways to make this event better. Each year, we try to do and be better. 

Thursday afternoon, once the veterans arrived, we got tags bought and had a brief safety meeting. Everyone gets time to visit and meet each other. That night was pizzas for dinner, and cherry bars for dessert. Friday morning, some veterans decided to hunt so they came to the house for breakfast and coffee. They all know they are welcome inside, and to make themselves at home. Lunch consisted of chili, cold cut sandwiches, chips, and cookies. Friday evening was our Meet & Greet. This event within an event, is when we invite our sponsors and special guests to attend. It's the opportunity to meet our veterans, and see how our event works. This year, there were several guests scheduled to attend...again, it did not go as planned, but we did have Iowa State Representative Jeff Shipley and his wife attend. Our local Conservation Agent drives past each year with a thumbs up to our veterans, as he is busy during the early archery season. Friday evening meal consisted of pulled pork(smoked by my husband), cheesy potatoes, lasagna(donated by Jim & Heather), green beans with bacon, a lettuce salad, and desserts of pumpkin bars & cookie bars(Janet) and cookies(Kody's Kreation). Saturday morning, was much like Friday morning...except I overslept. So, our veterans came in the house, got their breakfast and headed out...before I even got up. I love that they make themselves at home! Saturday evening we grilled burgers and brats, donated by Kahoka Meat Processing, Mac & Cheese(Jim & Heather), baked beans, lettuce salad, desserts(Janet). Sunday morning, a few veterans headed to the blinds, and everyone gathered for a group photo and a drawing for gifts donated for the veterans. A wooden flag was drawn for Redd, a propane fire pit(donated by Redd & Jill) was drawn for Robert, a custom made leather knife pocket with knife was drawn for Joe, There were 3 patriotic pictures given to Todd and Joni. A patriotic wreath was also donated to the Van Buren County Veterans Affairs, for their continued support. The pictures and wreath were all made and donated by Mary Dickinson.

<our 2024 veterans, minus Raymond and Jeff>

There is so much I could go on and on about. The benefits that these types of events offer our veterans, are beyond measure. After 6 years of hosting this event, I can tell you my own life has been impacted by each veteran I met throughout those years. I sit back and listen to the stories they share, their experiences and the shear enrichment they bring into the lives they touch. Each year, I am humbled to be the lucky soul to thank you them, and hopefully bring them a few days to relax and recharge. When a veteran tells you they find peace of mind and soul after being to this event, there is no greater honor! This will continue to be my service to Thank our veterans for as long as I am capable of doing it. 

I hope each of you have been to our Facebook farm page, read the spotlights and liked each of them. I am back to planning mode for next year. We are reserved for September 25-28, 2025. We can always use volunteers to help in the field, and donations are welcome. I will have a couple of tables set up in Bonaparte, Iowa - during the Scenic Drive Festival, October 11-13, 2024. These will be set up at gun show, in the old elementary building. If you are local, you can stop in and get some raffle tickets, a t-shirt or sweatshirt. I believe there is a $5 entry fee. I will be sharing that on our Facebook page. Raffle ticket donation is $10each/6-$50/12-$100. Shirt donation is $20 and sweatshirt donation is $40. 100% of all of this goes back to this event. 

We thank every single person that helps make this event go smoothly each year! I will be sharing photos and video on our Facebook page once they are all available. God Bless!

Coffee Break

 

 

 

 

What do you say, we just have a quick chat today. I have a lot of stuff that needs done, but my head is reeling and I need to get some thoughts moved on, so I can focus. 

 

So, yesterday I shared a short video about loving yourself. I have struggled with this most of my life. Never feeling good enough. The one thing my 40's brought me, was a change in those thoughts. I know that each of us is made to perfection, by a great creator, that doesn't make mistakes. As my youngest child reminds me regularly, we are never going to be perfect...only God is. So, why do we strive to appear that way? To keep up with others? Have we become so superficial? When did it become so acceptable to judge everyone else, when no one is ever going to be perfect? Why do we let others make us feel less than? So, as I'm looking at "50" in just over a hundred days, it has occurred to me - in the last few months,  why do I care what anyone else thinks? I really don't. That is the reality of it. I am not perfect, I stress out, I let my heart lead me into too many chances for people, I am not a surface person - I want substance. I root for the underdog every time, help others until I can't help anymore, I defend people even when they treat/talk poorly of me, and I believe karma will bite people who deserve it. My house is usually a mess and it annoys me, but not enough to kill myself trying to live in a museum. I built a beautiful 8' long table, that is usually half full and stacked with paperwork...so you can't see it. Our dining room table is used - for eating, for schooling, for planning, for organizing, for farm notes/paperwork; it's basically my office. The stories this table could tell, if it could talk. Anyway, the last few months, have been slowly brought acceptance. Accepting my flaws physically, mentally, and everything in between. I have become more and more accepting of who I am. The good, the bad, and the not-so-pretty sides. It's become really liberating. 

Most people who know me, know my favorite holiday is Christmas. With so much family drama the last couple of years, I really haven't enjoyed it. Which is sad, I know. I typically went all out for Christmas. It takes about 6 weeks to get all my decorations out, and up. I put lights outside in October, so I don't have to do it in snow or freezing temps, and start decorating on Halloween(which I truly dislike!). The last few years, I have not even put all the decor out. A couple months ago, I had decided to not to have our annual open house anymore. I had lost so many goodwill feelings. Well, I still have a child at home, and that child is pretty amazing. Obviously, both of my kids are the greatest...but this youngest one - boy is she a force. When she came to the table for lessons one day a few weeks ago, sharing cookie and candy recipes for the open house, and the fireball response when I said I didn't think we would have one this year...WOW! Initially, she was mad. Then, this 15 year old child, went into a 30 year old counselor. "Ok Mom, what's the deal? You love Christmas, you love the open house, you made our house look like Christmas threw up on it every year I can remember, and you have been slowing down - this isn't you. What the hell is wrong with you?" Yep, this is my spitfire AND her personality. "Kid" answers have never worked for her. So, I gave her some glossed over explanations and that did not fly. She called B.S. in no uncertain terms. Very long story(like 3 hours worth) short, there will be an open house and every decoration is going up - somewhere. 

It's been really amazing with my kids. I had my oldest, as an only child, for 8 years before my youngest was born. So, it feels like I am raising 2 only children. It's incredible how different the kids personalities are, yet how alike they are. My oldest was much like my youngest when he was younger. Now, he has become a responsible, hardworking young man. Getting to be a full-time mom, allowed me the luxury of knowing my children, their quirks, their learning styles, their communication styles, and the tell-tails when they weren't being honest. It's been difficult, in the sense, that for most of 24 years...I have only had the identity of Mom, or Richard's wife. Whatever. I have never needed much recognition, but it's easy to get lost in the daily grinds. Each of my kids have so many attributes that they are slowly going to learn and recognize; ones that I have seen in them from the beginning. They will also have to learn to accept their flaws. The one area that I have tried to instill, is loving who they are without comparing themselves to anyone else. That's tough in a world of false images, materialism and pressure from peers. Having to accept that I am raising good, strong young people, and allowing them to spread their wings...is one of the hardest successes as a Mom. I want them to take the path beside but I also want them to go further than I have been able  to. I am so proud of my kids and mostly who they are...sometimes their personalities are enough like their Momma, that we hit heads. 

So, I think my thoughts are slowing a bit. It's time to get more tomatoes canned up, get some laundry done, get some housework done, and get through today's math lessons. Lots to get ready for in the coming week! Have a blessed day!!

2024 Veteran Hunt Information

 

The 2024 Disabled Veteran Deer Hunt is quickly approaching. I was introduced to positive effects an event like this for our veterans, just over 7 years ago. The impact of nature in my own life is beyond description. When you are able to see the physical and psychological impact of bringing a veteran outdoors for the first time, to return them to nature after mental health and physical challenges, or to help them return to the timber with a buddy; it changes you. The complete rehabilitative effects of nature and camaraderie are immeasurable. I have always held our soldiers and veterans in the highest regard.  

Let's begin with a little about our family. 

Our family has a small farm in extreme Northeast Missouri. As a family, we have built this farm into a functioning and operational sheep and hay farm. We live where we host this event. My husband, Richard, handles maintaining connections with the landowners, in Iowa and Missouri, that donate their farms for use. He is also the master smoker and griller. Our Son Joey and his wife Laura, have their own cattle operation as well as helping on the family farm. Joey helps with the Missouri hunters, Laura helps with food, photography, and farm needs during the hunt. Our daughter Chloe, is my side kick in every aspect of organizing, planning, fundraising, and every other management function. Our bonus son Marcus and his girlfriend Aaron, help every where they can. I am Salli...I have been a stay-at-home mom for 20 years, home schooled my children, and found my passion in helping our nations veterans.

 

While we do not hold to a strict schedule, we do have guide to make sure our Veteran guests continue to have a premiere, top-tiered weekend. Our veteran hunt, is centered around our veteran guests. This veteran hunt has grown, that has now required interested veterans to enter into a raffle. To allow this hunt to remain personable, we limit the attendees to 8-10 veterans, based on lodging availability. We have been fortunate to have local lodging just 4 miles from our farm. Each lodge room contains 2 queen beds, a bathroom and a kitchenette. The entire lodge only offers 6 rooms, which we book every one of them each year, for this hunt. The rooms are clean and well maintained, and are handicap accessible. 

This event begins on Thursday, September 26th. This is the kickoff. All the veterans arrive, lodge check in is at 3 pm. To allow time for getting tags, we try to get everyone to their respective state by 4:30. Thursday evening is pizza night. We get several different flavors to try to cover everyone's taste. We try to eat by 6 pm. 7 pm, there will be a mandatory safety, regulation and rules meeting, that will also include determining who will be fishing on Friday morning. As with every portion of the weekend, if you want to sleep in, hang out, fish or hunt...it's your weekend. 

Friday, September 27th - I will have breakfast ready by 7am. This year we will have breakfast burritos, sausage biscuits and cinnamon rolls, coffee, milk and juice. Lunch menu will be vegetable soup, sandwiches, chips, and a dessert. This is also the evening of the meet & greet. This is opened to our community members and sponsors. We encourage all to attend, even if they choose not to, we welcome them. Our favorite DJ, P.T. Woods, Outlaw DJ, will be spinning music for us. The evening menu - pulled pork, lasagna(donated by Jim & Heather Sheets), green beans with bacon, lettuce salad, cheesy potatoes, pasta salad, dessert(donated by Janet Meek & Kody's Creation). We will have water, soda, and sweet tea readily available all day. The meet & greet, will begin with the playing of God Bless the USA, the National Anthem, and prayer. We try to begin by 7 pm.

Saturday, September 28th - Breakfast will be ready by 7am. Breakfast menu will be the same as Friday. Lunch menu will also be chili soup, sandwiches, chips and a dessert. The bonfire will be going in the afternoon and into the evening. The evening menu - Burgers and brats (donated by Kahoka Meat Processing), baked beans, macaroni & cheese(donated by Jim & Heather Sheets), pea salad and dessert(donated by Janet Meek & Kody's Creation). 

Sunday, September 29th - Breakfast will be ready around 7 am. Breakfast menu will be sausage gravy & biscuits, coffee, milk and juice. Lodge check out is 11 am. We will have a lunch of left overs; soup, sandwiches, chips and dessert. Many of our veterans have to leave early on Sunday to head back home, but those that want to stay, are welcome to hunt the afternoon too. 

As I have previously stated, we do not keep to a strict schedule. We encourage our veteran guests to relax, enjoy their weekend, and they determine how best to achieve that. Each of our veteran guests become an extension of our family, even beyond the veteran hunt. We have been honored to have some of our guests return - as hunters and volunteers. Chloe and I work hard all year to make this event the best possible. We have some amazing helpers - Richard, Joey, Laura, Marcus, Aaron, Janet, Slate, and Jerry; all have shared their strengths to help with this event. We have been fortunate to work with 2 separate 501 C3 groups over the years - Wake Foundation and True Impact Outdoors. Our landowners that have donated their land - Nick & Nancy Orphan, Lee & David Shultz, Junior & Linda Bertram, Andy Shilt, and Mark Sieb. We strive to shop and utilize local businesses whenever possible.

It takes the strength and efforts of everyone involved to make sure we are able to keep this event moving forward. We are excited to welcome our 2024 Veterans & Guests. Be sure to watch our Bowen Family Farm Facebook page, as we spotlight each of this year's Veterans.

Coffee Chat and Updates

 

What a first week of September this has been. With just 19 days until the kick off of this year's veteran hunt...I am kind of beside myself trying to finalize everything. It's been such a chaotic time, most of the year...September has snuck up on me. I have battled a lot of disappointments this year, with lack of communication, being a huge struggle. It's strange to me that others don't see the importance of it. 

Anyway, we have gotten some new shirts for our event this year. The entire order was a mess, but we'll deal with it. What was supposed to be a small run - meant to make sure everything printed as we wanted, for the veterans and volunteers...with a bigger order later in the month, and t-shirts in 2 colors...turned into the entire order at once, the graphic in the wrong place, and only a single color. Very disappointing and very costly for not being correct. The "answer" to fix it was a re-run, waiting for another two weeks, and having to pay for the cost of the shirts but not the printing...and keeping what we already had. Still not sure how that solution fixed the problem, but was going to cost even more. Whatever. I will make this work for now. So, we do have the shirts, they look really sharp, and I have lots of sizes from Medium thru 4XL. We got a few sweatshirts also. I will be setting up again this year, at the Villages of Van Buren, Scenic Drive Festival in the old school at Bonaparte, IA, during the gun show. The raffles and the shirts are fundraisers that allow us to continue hosting the veteran hunt every year. 

I have decided to make some changes to our veteran event, beginning next year. This year marks 6 years, that we have hosted this event...with very few changes. I strive to keep this hunt personable, relaxed and beneficial to the veterans. I will be keeping the number of veteran attendees to under 10, because once you go above that, it becomes too big to be managed efficiently by one person. We have struggled for a few years to get volunteers to help in the field - driving the veterans to the blinds, field dressing the deer, helping get veterans to and from the ponds for fishing. I will be reworking the donation/sponsorship/partnership options for 2025. I am hoping that 2025 will return some more acceptable level of costs; that we have battled with for 3 years now. I have a long list of notes to review for 2025, and I'm certain a lot more will be added before the end of September. October 1st, will begin the planning for the 2025 event. 

Allergies have taken ahold of my household this year. Every single one of us is battling them. After talking to several others, it seems allergies have become a real problem for a lot of people. When I woke up this morning, it was 43 degree!! I turned off the air and started opening windows. It is time for some fresh air. We aren't even supposed to break 70 today, so it's a great day for open windows and some deep cleaning. It seems we go from heat to air, then back to heat again...without much opportunity to open windows and allow some un-stagnant air in. It is so peaceful to hear the chickens and ducks instead of the noise from the air. 

Have a great weekend!

Sept. 2nd updates

 

Sept. 2nd, a new month has begun. It's been a busy and productive weekend around here, but also included a few hours meant to relax. We are in full winterizing mode and preparation. It's hard to believe we have about 2 months to be fully ready for Winter. For the most part, this is now innately done, since we have done this for so many years. It doesn't make it any less crazy, when so much is based on the whim of Mother Nature, and her bipolar behaviors. So, Labor Day Weekend, has been spent laboring. 

After 2 years with a leaky hydrant, it has finally been replaced! No more handle freezing because it was leaking out the handle. So, that included borrowing a mini ho, digging up the old hydrant, setting new the new one, adding new rock around the drain hole at the bottom, resetting and back filling. My husband and son made quick work of getting that project knocked out. The new one works, as it should!  They also fixed the main water shut off under the house that was ready to blow out. The location of that shut off, is directly under my daughters bedroom, so if that had failed...it would have been a complete disaster! Now, there's a new shut off, hopefully this one will last another 13 years! 

While the guys were working on that stuff, I started trimming trees, cleaning up a few areas of landscape, and did some mowing. I worked on more tree trimming and gardening yesterday. I was pleasantly surprised to find some tomatoes and green beans that were ready. There really hasn't been much to harvest before now. I made the decision that our main garden is being reseeded and will be resting for a year or two. The harvests the last couple of years have been pretty weak, and I just don't need as much as I once did. I will always garden in one form or fashion, since I truly love it, but I no longer need to feed large amounts of people, and really...I just want to have enough for my family, and actually enjoy it again. I put so many expectations on myself, that I end up overwhelmed, and I am a horrible critic of myself! 

Last night, I decided we were all going to slow down and relax. I decided I wanted a bonfire. No hoopla, no big gathering...just us and the kids. While I was disappointed that all but me, spent most of the time on their phones...it was still relaxing. Looking up at the stars, cooking nasty hot dogs on the fire, seeing the milky way, shooting stars, watching the bats, just relaxation. I haven't dealt with my phone much the entire weekend. Didn't take many pictures, and didn't even have it close most of the time. It's so easy to get tethered to electronics. It has been a hugely beneficial break. 

I have taken this morning to relax a little more. It's almost time to start getting more done, but you know - everything is still going to be there, when I get to it! Except maybe the garden produce. It's a little more time sensitive. Anyway, I have a few things in the back garden, and once it's empty, it will be turned back over to the chickens and ducks. There's cabbage back there that needs cut, sweet onions, and potatoes to dig, and hopefully some peppers. I've decided to try a new sauerkraut recipe, and keep some leaves for cabbage rolls. This week has a lot of must do things, and I'm going to work at it until it's all done. Canning pasta sauce, making kraut, freezing beans, fundraising for the veteran hunt, and the regular stuff - laundry, cleaning, and school. 

As of today, we have 24 days until the 2024 Veteran Hunt begins. I'm really excited, as I am every year. It's one of events I look forward to each year. It's a lot of work!! However, when you watch it all come together, it's beyond worth it! I have been honored to meet so many incredible people. The veterans this year, are coming from Illinois, Iowa, Tennessee and Louisiana. We still have some raffle tickets available, and are needing about 3 volunteers to help in the field. I believe I have plenty of help at the farm this year. We are still wanting to fill a few sponsorships for this year, since many of the prices have gone up, and we've had a few more unexpected expenses. 

As I head out for today, I hope you have all had a safe and enjoyable weekend. I hope September brings each of you the rest, and peace, that I believe we all need. God Bless!